Easing the Transition: A Guide to Starting the School Year
August 4, 2025

As summer winds down and the school year approaches, our children often experience a mix of emotions from excitement and curiosity to worry and anxiety. Whether your child is returning to familiar routines or stepping into something entirely new, transitions can be challenging for both children and parents.


The good news? With a little forethought and gentle structure, the shift from summer to school can become an opportunity for growth, connection, and calm. The Montessori philosophy reminds us that preparing the environment is key, and that includes preparing our home routines, emotional landscape, and mindset for the change ahead.


Reestablishing Routines


One of the most effective ways to support a smooth transition is to gradually reintroduce routines. Children thrive on consistency and predictability, and reestablishing a gentle rhythm can reduce stress and help everyone feel more grounded.


Sleep Schedules


The shift from late summer nights to early school mornings is often the trickiest. Rather than expecting a sudden adjustment on the first day, we recommend starting 10 to 14 days in advance. Gradually move bedtimes and wake-up times earlier in 15-minute increments. The goal is for your child to wake feeling rested and ready when the school year begins. Pair this adjustment with a calming, age-appropriate bedtime routine to support both physical rest and emotional regulation.


Morning Routines


A consistent and peaceful morning routine can transform the start of the day for the entire family. With a few subtle adjustments, we can also encourage our children to participate in preparing for the day ahead. For example, offer two outfit options for younger children, or encourage older children to choose and lay out their clothes the night before. A visual checklist with steps like getting dressed, eating breakfast, brushing teeth, and packing up can help alleviate the pressure. For added fun and independence, laminate the visual guide and let your child check off each task with a dry-erase marker. Ultimately, it helps practice the morning routine together before school starts, so it feels familiar and low-pressure.


Preparing Lunches and Snacks


Involving children in packing their own lunch fosters independence and gives them a sense of responsibility. Set up a small shelf or refrigerator section with healthy, ready-to-grab options. With a little support, even very young children can help pack their snacks and lunches the night before or as part of the morning routine.


Creating Calm and Order at Home


Designating a special area for school items helps build a sense of order and capability. Low hooks for backpacks, a bin for shoes, and a tidy shelf for lunch bags or outerwear give your child the tools they need to manage their belongings independently.

You can even “practice” coming home before the first day of school. Having your child hang up their backpack, unpack their lunch, and put things away helps establish habits that will carry through the year.


Supporting Emotions


It’s completely normal for children (and us!) to feel a mix of emotions about returning to school, especially when starting somewhere new. The key is to remain open, curious, and validating.


Encourage open conversations about feelings that might be arising. Instead of trying to fix discomfort, try reflective listening: “It sounds like you’re feeling a little nervous about meeting new friends.” We can also model a positive mindset by highlighting joyful aspects of school, such as reconnecting with friends, engaging in favorite activities, or exploring something new.


Another approach is to create rituals to mark the transition, such as an end-of-summer breakfast, a special note tucked into a lunchbox, or a celebration to mark the start of the school year.


Cultivating Connection


Transitions are smoother when children feel supported and connected to their community. If possible, visit the school before the first day, especially if your child is starting something new. Even a walk around the outside of the building can provide helpful familiarity. Coordinating playdates or meetups with classmates can help build or rebuild social bonds. If your child is interested, it can also be fun to explore extracurricular activities that foster a sense of belonging.


Maintaining Wellness and Balance


We do better when we feel better. To help children sustain their energy for the school day, focus on nutritious meals, especially a healthy breakfast that will fuel concentration and energy. To support a healthy balance between screen time, movement, and rest, work with your child to establish technology boundaries and screen limits before the school year starts. This helps children adjust ahead of time to different (and hopefully healthier) habits.


Encouraging Independence and Collaboration


Back-to-school doesn’t have to be something adults “do to” children. When we invite children into the process with genuine collaboration, they begin to feel more in control and more confident. From setting up routines, to preparing meals, to expressing their feelings, children are capable of contributing meaningfully to the process.


The result? A smoother transition, a greater sense of peace, and children who feel ready to step confidently into the school year ahead. 


Curious to learn more about supporting children in developing habits that serve them for a lifetime? Visit our school today!


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Assisting with Cultural Adaptation Practical life activities reflect real-world tasks that children observe in their daily lives. Children are naturally drawn to meaningful work—they want to help, imitate, and participate. For example, in Dr. Montessori’s early observations in San Lorenzo, she saw that children were fascinated by the gardener and the custodian, eagerly following and watching their work. Children see adults doing marvelous activities, and children want to learn the skills to participate! Through practical life activities, children engage in culturally relevant tasks that allow them to feel like valuable members of their community. Supporting Orientation Orientation is a fundamental human tendency—we all seek to understand our surroundings and how to function within them. Practical life exercises help children orient to the Montessori classroom by introducing essential routines. 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